Why I feel like quitting DAILY.
I get the struggle of trying to achieve something with our lives! It’s tough going, especially when everybody is tempting you to go the opposite way. The pressure to be just like them and stay exactly where you are right now, not moving forwards, not getting better, not leaving them behind or showing them up with what can be done in the right mindset. This is why it’s easy to quit and why so many people give up failing to achieve their goals.
The thing is, we’re not doing it for these people, we’re doing it for ourselves, for our family and to inspire our children to maximise their lives. These people who want to hold us back are not helping our situation. It can be difficult to plough through these situations and continue to move forwards. More often we’re sat wondering how we lapsed on our progress in the situation, but it’s rarely the fault of our own. In order to out-stay these temptations our motivation has to come from a much deeper place (see 7 reasons why article) than the superficial.
The Struggle Is Real
Most days I consider jacking everything in, getting rid of the gym and getting a ‘proper’ job as my parents and those around me once called it (probably in a call centre or something as that’s where I’ve been before). The struggle to achieve your goals is most definitely real. Whether your goal is weight loss, strength, fitness or like mine in creating a successful business (alongside my body & fitness goals). Each DAY there’s a set-back, there’s a kick in the ‘balls’ that takes the wind out of you.
Whether it’s a business software issue or a client issue struggling to take the right actions to get results. It could be some ‘hater’ online that’s talking crap about other trainers trying to do well, or trainers trying to build up their own ego’s by knocking down other trainers. Yes, some junior trainers may be miss-guided (maybe instead of calling them all kinds and de-motivating the rest of the good quality trainers you should keep your damn mouth shut) as my mum said “if you’ve got nothing good to say, keep your mouth shut!”
Y’see I’ve seen this first hand, hell I’ve even done this before. As years go by you grow up and learn and realise that the only thing that’s happening by calling other trainers, is keeping those who have something good to say quiet, because we didn’t have the balls to say out loud – just in-case things were taken the wrong way.
What I’m trying to say is, like you on your diet having friends try to persuade you to have another drink or saying “you look great just enjoy the cake” trying to make themselves feel even less guilty in having it. I have set backs and things trying to pull me down DAILY like your work colleagues, friends or family may be pulling you back from your goals.
Where Would Giving Up Get Us?
If I were REALLY to let all the crap get to me I wouldn’t be here writing this. I’d be living a life without influencing or motivating anybody. The same way you wouldn’t achieve anything if you didn’t take action on your goals. You’ll stay where you are eating the cake and unlimited drinks, and continue to be un-motivated by the day-to-day, struggling to find purpose or even to live for YOU, instead hiding behind your children, your job or whatever other excuse you could muster up. I’m doing this FOR my future family, so that they can have better, I want to be fit, strong and mobile to be able to have ZERO limitations on what I can do with my kids… Children love superheroes, and I’ll be damned if I’m not my child’s biggest superhero!!!
If I were to give up on my goals, where do you think I’d end up, I’d be a disappointment, I’d be working the struggle instead of bringing up my children and living a life full of inspiration.
Getting back up is not an option, it’s THE ONLY option, because of what I’ve set my personal beliefs as.
There are countless of weight loss diets out there, it is in fact a multi-BILLION-dollar industry. Yet with so many different diets and “authority” figures sell thing their diets it can be confusing to us in trying to find the perfect weight loss diet that’s best for us. So how do we find the perfect weightloss diet for our lifestyle and goals.
- Low Carb
- Low Fat
- Slimming World
- Juice Diet
This never ending list.
Diets can be confusing, yet NONE of these are the perfect diet for you. They all provide well meaning guidelines to follow, yet offer very little in terms of structuring them around your lifestyle, you should not need to change your lifestyle to it the diet in. If you’re a busy mum working at a high level you’re going to be struggling for time so spending a ton of time preparing foods, weighing your chicken to count your macro’s probably isn’t the right plan for you, yet juicing your meals leaves you feeling tired and grouchy – not to mention the health concerns with not ‘eating meals’. There are very few diets that factor in work stress, time restraints, hungry children or even family meals (anything that requires weighing your foods to count calories, macronutrients etc.).
The Perfect diets needs to work around YOUR lifestyle and encourage family time together, not you trying to adjust your life to the diet, that will only lead to frustration and short term changes. It will also not only get you the weight loss results you’re after, but leave you feeling energised, vibrant and confident. The perfect diet will provide countless health benefits and reduce your stress levels by working in your environment.
Why the typical diet doesn’t work?
The more traditional method of cutting our or limiting certain food types, we end up reducing our food options and this means we “should” end up eating less food as a result. The average person will stick to around 25 food types (chicken, fish, certain vegetables and fruits alongside plenty of junk foods such as chocolate, sweets and calories in drinks). The problems comes when reducing our carbs, or fats actually reduces our nutrients and/or leads to replacing them with other foods. Through advising to reduce certain foods types these diets fail to identify the true cause of your weight loss – reduced food intake – instead
focusing on one aspect that they say is causing weight gain. The
re are many research studies and evidence supporting the fact is not reduced carbs, fats or any food type that causes weight loss, but reducing food intake is actually the magic potion in these diets and why sometimes they succeed, more often they fail because we replace the food types with more of the others.
Counting Calories – Limiting Food Intake
This is where counting calories comes into play as a diet option however, does this fit in with your lifestyle and belief patterns? If you’re rushed for time and want to eat with the family (counting calories requires weighing food uncooked) then this is going to impact for life. Therefore although you may start with the best intentions ultimately these plans are often short term and highly stressed.
What is The Perfect Diet
The perfect diet is different for each and every person and it doesn’t have a ‘name’.
We strongly believe small adjustments are required over the long term to succeed. This is why We provide empowering methods to allow you to make the right choices in situations where you’re having to choose what foods to eat. Through providing information, recipes and guidelines for our clients to make the best choices for them in any situation. We feel that by empowering our clients with the tools to not only make the right choices when rushed around and stressed but also at home with the family.
These play a major role in the success of our diet. If your program limits social aspects such as meals out, parties (consuming alcohol or BBQ’s) then these diets will be useless, unless we live the life of a hermit. Therefore we need to take these factors into consideration when looking at the adjustments we can make to our diet to allow us to succeed, many diets fail to do this.
Working With Your Strengths
This simply means that the perfect diet will help us win with our goals, social aspects and our overall health. We provide tips and guides for eating out such as steak, chicken and fish to help with protein and healthy fats, limiting un-necessary calories through sauces, and having starters instead of desserts to help improve the calorie balance and drinking low (or zero) calorie drinks alongside your meals to help you feel satiated. These mean that we can continue doing what we enjoy and socialising without the need to stress or worry about putting on weight, or falling off the weight loss wagon.
The perfect diet is not a quick fix option that you’ll likely give up quicker than seeing any results but a diet that provides the nutrients, energy and balance that we need in life to achieve our goals and enjoy our lifestyle. Therefore the perfect diet is completely individual and always changing as our lives do.
If you want to maximise your health, weight loss, performance and energy levels here’s a list things you can do to maximise your diet.
> Portion Control – We like to use our hand size as our guide but you can use anything you want to quickly determine the size of your portions
> Limit Liquid Calories – There’s nothing beneficial from drinking your calories, unless excessive caffeine, alcohol and sugars are your goal.
> Reduce Snacking – the snacks we eat are mostly emotionally driven. We need to take control of our lives and determine whether we’re eating for health, emotion or environmental factors.
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They say you should Start With Why…
Most of the time we decide that we want to lose weight, tone up or get lean and strong. We even know the weight we want to lose, or the dress size we want to get into.
But less often we know exactly the reason why we want to achieve these goals… we’ll often come up with ‘surface’ level reasons such as I’m tired of being overweight, i want to lose weight because I want to look better for our summer holiday etc.
Then we struggle to get results and wonder why we yo-yo our weight, why we don’t stick with a program long enough to get the results we wanted in 3 weeks.
Our deeper level ‘Why’ could be the missing piece of the puzzle.
We often forget to establish the REAL reason “WHY” we want these goals.
Most of us believe it will make us happy, much like winning the lottery will make people happy, yet those who have achieved these goals often find it is not enough to make us happy… we just renew our goals and continue to reach for more. I believe the reason why could be the missing piece of the puzzle to achieving and keeping our goals.
But HOW do we find our reason why?
I ask ALL of our clients why they want to achieve their goals and why they are going to do what’s need to achieve their goals.
Yet all-too-often we get surface level responses such as “i want to lose weight” or I want to feel better” but we need to go deeper to really understand why. Finding the deeper level of why will allow us to carry on when times get tough such as rainy days, or feeling a little tired and things start to take over, when this happens, most people will give up without any result or even worse, just short of seeing the results they want to get. Even if the task was as easy as just turning up each day – regardless of the work most people will fail to turn up each day if their reason why isn’t big enough. We need to lead our action to our goals, not be lead by our actions away from our goals. I can tell that you’re not the type of person who wants to stay where you are, by reading this far you want results and want to delve deeper into your why.
You want to improve and get more from your life, whether that’s weightloss, shape, or all of these factors, you want more than the ordinary person.
It can sometimes be difficult to find the ‘real’ reason why we want to lose weight or why we want to be leaner, fitter & stronger. But it doesn’t have to be difficult we just need to go 7 levels deep.
I’ve tried this many times with clients and even family members and each time it’s worked an absolute treat each time.
So what does it actually mean?
First of all we set our goal, then each level develops based on the previous answer such as
Goal: I want to lose get in shape…
Why… I want to lose weight because… etc
Most of our clients want to lose weight, even i want to get in better shape, so why do I want to be fitter, stronger and leaner?
Goal: Get in better shape
- I want to get in shape because, I want to inspire others to do the same.
- I want to inspire others because, I believe it’s important to lead by example.
- I want to lead by example because, I have always been lead before by friends/coaches who haven’t had my best interests.
- I want to give people the best chance they have to succeed
- I want people to get results from working with me and to leave a legacy
- I want to be remembered with a legacy because I was a nobody growing up that very few people cared about and was effectively bullied by friends who would run off.
I want to prove to people that I am worth more than that!
These are the reasons why I want to achieve my goals and get into better shape – notice it actually has ZERO to do with being in shape, health or fitness but all to do with emotions and feelings. Once we tap into these feelings and emotions our goals become bigger than excuses and we are able to push through hard times or challenges and continue moving forwards to achieve our goals.
These are very clearly my reasons and my goals. Go through the process and explore your own reasons. I would love to hear your 7 reasons why, but if you feel they’re too personal to share at least you will have the power to commit and continue moving forwards more than any excuse to stop.