They say you should Start With Why…
Most of the time we decide that we want to lose weight, tone up or get lean and strong. We even know the weight we want to lose, or the dress size we want to get into.
But less often we know exactly the reason why we want to achieve these goals… we’ll often come up with ‘surface’ level reasons such as I’m tired of being overweight, i want to lose weight because I want to look better for our summer holiday etc.
Then we struggle to get results and wonder why we yo-yo our weight, why we don’t stick with a program long enough to get the results we wanted in 3 weeks.
Our deeper level ‘Why’ could be the missing piece of the puzzle.
We often forget to establish the REAL reason “WHY” we want these goals.
Most of us believe it will make us happy, much like winning the lottery will make people happy, yet those who have achieved these goals often find it is not enough to make us happy… we just renew our goals and continue to reach for more. I believe the reason why could be the missing piece of the puzzle to achieving and keeping our goals.
But HOW do we find our reason why?
I ask ALL of our clients why they want to achieve their goals and why they are going to do what’s need to achieve their goals.
Yet all-too-often we get surface level responses such as “i want to lose weight” or I want to feel better” but we need to go deeper to really understand why. Finding the deeper level of why will allow us to carry on when times get tough such as rainy days, or feeling a little tired and things start to take over, when this happens, most people will give up without any result or even worse, just short of seeing the results they want to get. Even if the task was as easy as just turning up each day – regardless of the work most people will fail to turn up each day if their reason why isn’t big enough. We need to lead our action to our goals, not be lead by our actions away from our goals. I can tell that you’re not the type of person who wants to stay where you are, by reading this far you want results and want to delve deeper into your why.
You want to improve and get more from your life, whether that’s weightloss, shape, or all of these factors, you want more than the ordinary person.
It can sometimes be difficult to find the ‘real’ reason why we want to lose weight or why we want to be leaner, fitter & stronger. But it doesn’t have to be difficult we just need to go 7 levels deep.
I’ve tried this many times with clients and even family members and each time it’s worked an absolute treat each time.
So what does it actually mean?
First of all we set our goal, then each level develops based on the previous answer such as
Goal: I want to lose get in shape…
Why… I want to lose weight because… etc
Most of our clients want to lose weight, even i want to get in better shape, so why do I want to be fitter, stronger and leaner?
Goal: Get in better shape
- I want to get in shape because, I want to inspire others to do the same.
- I want to inspire others because, I believe it’s important to lead by example.
- I want to lead by example because, I have always been lead before by friends/coaches who haven’t had my best interests.
- I want to give people the best chance they have to succeed
- I want people to get results from working with me and to leave a legacy
- I want to be remembered with a legacy because I was a nobody growing up that very few people cared about and was effectively bullied by friends who would run off.
I want to prove to people that I am worth more than that!
These are the reasons why I want to achieve my goals and get into better shape – notice it actually has ZERO to do with being in shape, health or fitness but all to do with emotions and feelings. Once we tap into these feelings and emotions our goals become bigger than excuses and we are able to push through hard times or challenges and continue moving forwards to achieve our goals.
These are very clearly my reasons and my goals. Go through the process and explore your own reasons. I would love to hear your 7 reasons why, but if you feel they’re too personal to share at least you will have the power to commit and continue moving forwards more than any excuse to stop.